My Dear Sister,

Survivors need to go thru several phases in order to heal. One thing I notice about my journey as I look back is I went through a two year period of consuming everything I could get my hands. I read anything that was written about abuse, sexual addiction and trauma. I saved articles, bought books, scoured Facebook and kept a highlighter tucked into every book I was reading because the information was gold.

There is a reason we all go through this phase: VALIDATION. We NEED validation when we are coming to terms with our reality, we need to NAME the things that we are experiencing and we need REASSURANCE that we are NOT CRAZY! We need to see ourselves and our stories in the pages we touch.

When you are beginning to understand reality, and the blinders begin to fall from your eyes, a whole new world will open up to you. In these resources you will feel acknowledged and known and in return you will EQUIP yourself to make new change for your life!

You are the OWNER of your story and not the victim, we use this knowledge to create POWER!

I have divided these resources up by categories, all of these books I have touched, reviewed, read and even have participated in a couple proofreading teams, before the title was published! These are a collective of truth.

“Truth is strong and sometime or other, will prevail” – Mary Astell

Sexual Addiction and Healing after Sexual Betrayal: Your Sexually Addicted Spouse, How to Cope and How to Heal, Marsha Means and Barbara Steffens

Toxic Family Systems

Internal Family Systems


Divorce: Necessary Endings by Dr. Henry Cloud

Life Saving Divorce by Gretchen Baskerville


Abuse and Patriarchy Within the Church:

Recovery from Spiritual Abuse: Stumbling Towards Wholeness, Andrew J. Bauman

Untwisting Scripture (Books 1 and 2), Rebecca Davis

Sexuality: The Sexually Healthy Man, Andrew J. Bauman

Theology of the Womb, Christy Vidrine Bauman

The Great Sex Rescue, Sheila Gregoire

Grief: A Brave Lament, Andrew and Christy Bauman

Stumbling Towards Wholeness, Andrew Bauman

Becoming the Beloved Woman:

Women Who Run With the Wolves, Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D.

The Life of the Beloved, Henri Nouwen

Here and Now, Henri Nouwen

“Love Does”, Bob Goff

Stumbling Towards Wholeness, Andrew Bauman